摘要：“古人云：食不言，寝不语。”这短短八字，宛如一记洪钟，在历史的长河中悠悠回荡，敲醒了多少人对饮食礼仪与身心健康的思索。在那遥远的旧时光里，餐桌静静饮食，是一幅温润而祥和的画卷，是优良传统里一抹静谧的色彩。一家人围坐，轻声细语间，饭菜的香气与亲情的温暖交织，那是

“古人云：食不言，寝不语。”这短短八字，宛如一记洪钟，在历史的长河中悠悠回荡，敲醒了多少人对饮食礼仪与身心健康的思索。在那遥远的旧时光里，餐桌静静饮食，是一幅温润而祥和的画卷，是优良传统里一抹静谧的色彩。一家人围坐，轻声细语间，饭菜的香气与亲情的温暖交织，那是岁月馈赠给我们的珍贵礼物。

然而，时代的车轮滚滚向前，进入新时代以后，餐桌的景象如同被施了魔法一般，变得五彩斑斓又纷繁复杂。工作餐上，人们为了业务推杯换盏，谈笑间皆是利益的权衡；团建餐里，热闹的氛围下藏着职场规则的暗流涌动；情感交流聚餐时，有人借着酒劲倾诉衷肠，有人却在觥筹交错中迷失了自我。这些五花八门的聚餐，如同一个个小小的舞台，上演着人生的百态，却也在不经意间，让餐桌失去了那份原本的宁静与纯粹。

再把目光拉回到家庭内部，家庭聚餐是每日三餐必不可少的存在，它就像一条无形的纽带，将一家人紧紧地联系在一起。每个家庭都有自己独特的饮食氛围和习惯，这些习惯如同家族的基因，代代相传。有的家庭，餐桌上总是欢声笑语，饭菜的香气中弥漫着浓浓的亲情；而有的家庭，餐桌却成了负面情绪的战场，一场场没有硝烟的战争在这里悄然打响。

情绪郁结，就像是餐桌上的“隐形杀手”，悄无声息地侵蚀着我们的身心健康。“气饱了”这句话，可不是一句玩笑话。想象一下，在一个本应温馨的家庭进餐时刻，孩子因为调皮被父亲严厉训斥，眼泪在眼眶里打转，却只能默默地咽下饭菜；夫妻之间因为一点小事发生争执，脸红脖子粗，气氛紧张得如同暴风雨来临前的天空。这样的场景，就像一把把锋利的刀子，割破了家庭和谐的表象，让肝气郁结的病理状态悄然滋生。

从中医的角度来看，肝郁侵犯脾胃，就如同外敌入侵，脾胃这个身体的“粮仓”受到了严重的威胁。脾胃功能失调，水液代谢失常，便会生成痰湿。气滞与痰湿胶结在一起，就像一团乱麻，形成了特殊的“情绪一体质”恶性循环。这可不是危言耸听，有数据表明，在这类家庭中，成员的焦虑、抑郁、失眠等情绪疾病发生率显著增高，比正常家庭高出好几倍。而且，这种不良的影响还呈现代际传递特征，就像一个无形的诅咒，一代又一代地延续下去。

更值得注意的是，长期压抑的餐桌氛围，就像一颗隐藏在身体深处的定时炸弹，随时可能引发器质性病变。甲状腺结节、乳腺结节、子宫肌瘤、卵巢囊肿等病症，就像一个个不速之客，悄悄地找上门来。中医将其归因于肝气郁结、痰瘀互结的病理过程，这可不是空穴来风。《黄帝内经》中记载“怒甚则伤肝，思甚则伤脾”的经典论述，在此得到了生动的印证。进餐时的情绪价值，就像一把无形的钥匙，能够开启健康或疾病的大门，往往比营养配比更能深远地影响全家人的身心健康。

我曾听闻这样一个故事，有一个家庭，父亲是个脾气暴躁的人，每次吃饭时，只要孩子有一点不如他的意，就会大发雷霆。母亲虽然心里不满，但也不敢多说什么，只能默默地忍受着。久而久之，这个家庭的餐桌氛围变得异常压抑。孩子变得越来越胆小内向，学习成绩也一落千丈；母亲则经常感到身体不适，去医院检查，发现患上了乳腺结节。而父亲自己，也因为长期的情绪压抑，患上了失眠症，整个人憔悴不堪。这个家庭的遭遇，就像一面镜子，清晰地映照出了餐桌负面情绪对家庭成员身心健康的巨大危害。

那么，我们该如何打破这个恶性循环，让餐桌重新焕发出温暖与和谐的光芒呢？其实，答案就在我们自己的手中。当我们坐在餐桌前，不妨先放下手中的烦恼和压力，给自己一个微笑，给家人一个温暖的拥抱。在进餐的过程中，多一些关心和鼓励，少一些指责和抱怨。就像给干涸的土地浇上甘甜的水，让亲情的种子在餐桌上生根发芽。

“一粥一饭，当思来处不易；半丝半缕，恒念物力维艰。”我们在享受美食的同时，更应该珍惜这份与家人相聚的时光。让我们从每一个餐桌开始，用积极的情绪和满满的爱，驱散负面情绪的阴霾，为家人的身心健康撑起一片晴朗的天空。因为，餐桌不仅仅是我们填饱肚子的地方，更是我们传递爱与温暖、守护健康的港湾。让我们携手共进，在这小小的餐桌上，书写属于我们的健康与幸福的故事。

作者简介：梁世杰 中医高年资主治医师，本科学历，从事中医临床工作24年，积累了较丰富的临床经验。师从首都医科大学附属北京中医院肝病科主任医师、著名老中医陈勇，侍诊多载，深得器重，尽得真传！擅用“商汤经方分类疗法”、专病专方结合“焦树德学术思想”“关幼波十纲辨证”学术思想治疗疑难杂症为特色。现任北京树德堂中医研究院研究员，北京中医药薪火传承新3+3工程—焦树德门人（陈勇）传承工作站研究员，国际易联易学与养生专委会常务理事，中国中医药研究促进会焦树德学术传承专业委员会委员，中国药文化研究会中医药慢病防治分会首批癌症领域入库专家。荣获2020年中国中医药研究促进会仲景医学分会举办的第八届医圣仲景南阳论坛“经方名医”荣誉称号。2023年首届京津冀“扁鹊杯”燕赵医学研究主题征文优秀奖获得者。事迹入选《当代科学家》杂志、《中华英才》杂志。

The Dining Table: A Tragedy of Eating Under the Fear of Emotion

"The ancients said: 'I don't eat, I don't sleep.' These short words, like a flood bell, have reverberated throughout history, awakening many people's thoughts on eating etiquette and physical and mental health. In those distant old days, eating at a quiet table was a painting of warmth and peace, a quiet color in a good tradition. As the family sat around in soft words, the aroma of the meal was mingled with the warmth of the affection that the years had given us.

However, as the wheels of the time rolled forward, the dining room scene became as colorful and complex as a magic when the new era entered. At work meals, people change cups for the sake of business, and the conversation and laughter are a trade-off of interests. During group meals, the lively atmosphere hides the undercurrent of workplace rules; Emotionally communicating during a dinner party, some people use the energy of the drink to confide in their heart, while others lose themselves in the chaos of the bouquet. These diverse dinners are like small stages that play the full spectrum of life, but they also inadvertently lose the table's original serenity and purity.

Looking back inside the family, family meals are essential to three meals a day. They act as an invisible bond that binds the family together. Each family has its own unique eating atmosphere and habits, which are passed down from generation to generation like the genes of the family. There are families where there is always laughter and laughter at the dinner table, and the aroma of the food is rich with family. In some families, the dining table has become a battleground for negative emotions, and wars without smoke are quietly being fought here.

Depression, like an "invisible killer" at the dinner table, quietly eats away at our physical and mental health. The phrase "angry" is not a joke. Imagine that during a supposedly warm family meal, the child was sternly reprimanded by his father for being naughty, tears rolled in his eyes, but was forced to swallow the meal in silence. The couple had a dispute over a small matter, blush and thick neck, and the atmosphere was as tense as the skies before a storm. This scenario, like a sharp knife, cut through the appearance of family harmony, so that the pathological status of stagnation of liver qi quietly breeding.

From the perspective of Chinese medicine, liver depression invades the spleen and stomach, like foreign enemies invading, and the spleen, the body's "breadbasket," is seriously threatened. If the spleen and stomach function is dysregulated and the water and fluid metabolism is abnormal, then phlegm will be generated. Stagnation and phlegm are glued together like a mess, forming a special vicious circle of "emotional unity." This is no scaremongering; data indicate that in such households, the incidence of emotional disorders such as anxiety, depression and insomnia is significantly higher, several times higher than in normal households. Moreover, this adverse effect also exhibits intergenerational transmission, like an invisible curse that persists from generation to generation.

More importantly, the long-suppressed dining-table atmosphere is like a time bomb hidden deep within the body, which can trigger organ diseases at any time. Thyroid gland tubercle, mammary gland tubercle, uterine flesh tumour, ovarian cyst wait for a disease, be like each uninvited guest, seek come to come quietly. Chinese medicine attributed to stagnation of liver qi, phlegm and blood stasis of the pathological course, this is not groundless. The classical statement in the Analects of Huangdi that "if anger hurts the liver, if thoughts hurt the spleen," is vividly confirmed here. The emotional value of meals, like an invisible key that opens the door to health or disease, often has a far greater impact on the physical and mental health of the entire family than nutritional ratios.

I once heard a story about a family in which the father was a grumpy man who would burst into rage whenever the child didn't like him at dinner. Although the mother was dissatisfied, she did not dare to say anything more, and she could only bear it in silence. Over time, the family's dining room atmosphere became unusually depressing. The children became more and more timid and introverted, and their academic performance fell sharply. The mother, on the other hand, often feels ill and goes to the hospital to be examined and found to have a breast nodule. And the father himself, because of his long-term emotional depression, suffered from insomnia, and his whole body was looking haggard. The family's experience, like a mirror, clearly reflects the enormous harm that negative emotions at the dinner table can have on the physical and mental health of family members.

So how can we break this vicious circle and give the dining table a new glow of warmth and harmony? In fact, the answer lies in our own hands. When we sit at the dinner table, let go of our worries and stress, give ourselves a smile and give our family a warm hug. During the meal, be more caring and encouraging, and less blaming and complaining. It's like pouring sweet water on dry land and letting the seeds of affection take root on the dinner table.

“A porridge and a meal are not easy to think of; Half a grain and half a stitch keeps thinking about physical difficulties.”While we enjoy good food, we should also appreciate the time we spend with our family. Let us start at every table with positive emotions and full love to clear the skies of negative emotions and create a clear sky for the physical and mental health of our families. Because the dining table is not just a place where we fill our bellies, but also a harbor where we transmit love and warmth and protect our health. Let us work together at this small table to write the stories of our health and well-being.

Author Bio: Liang Shijie is a senior medical practitioner in traditional Chinese medicine with an undergraduate degree. He has been engaged in traditional medicine clinical work for 24 years and has accumulated a wealth of clinical experience. Following Chen Yong, chief physician of liver disease at Beijing Traditional Medicine Hospital, affiliated with Capital Medical University, and renowned old Chinese medicine, he has been treated for many years and received great attention. He specializes in the treatment of difficult diseases using "conversational traditional therapy" and special treatments combined with the academic ideas of Jiao Shude and Guan Yubo's ten-level diagnosis.He is currently a researcher at the Shude Tang TCM Research Institute in Beijing, a fellow at the new 3 + 3 project of traditional Chinese medicine flame inheritance in Beijing - a scholar at the inheritance workstation of Jiao Shude's protégés (Chen Yong),He is a standing committee member of the International Expert Committee on E-learning and Health Care, a member of the Jiao Shude Academic Heritage Special Committee of the Chinese Association for the Advancement of Chinese Medicine Research, and the first cancer specialist to be included in the chapter of the Chinese Pharmaceutical Culture Research Association. Won the 2020 China Association for the Promotion of Traditional Chinese Medicine Zhongjing Medical Branch held the eighth session of the Medical Saint Zhongjing Nanyang Forum "Classic Prescription Famous Doctor" honorary title. The winner of the first Beijing-Tianjin-Hebei "Pingui Cup" Yanzhao Medical Research Essay Award in 2023. His work was featured in the journal Current Scientist and the journal Chinese Talent.

来源：首都专家梁世杰一点号