摘要：Parents are a mirror through which children perceive the world. If parents' emotions are stable, peaceful, and joyful, then childr
父母是孩子认知世界的一面镜子。父母情绪稳定，平和喜悦，那么孩子自然会快乐、自信、勇敢的长大；
Parents are a mirror through which children perceive the world. If parents' emotions are stable, peaceful, and joyful, then children will naturally grow up happy, confident, and brave;
反之，如果父母总是管不住自己的脾气，充斥着愤怒、冷漠等负面情绪，那么孩子就算拥有再多，也不会获得幸福感。
On the contrary, if parents always cannot control their temper and are filled with negative emotions such as anger and indifference, then even if the child has more, they will not gain a sense of happiness.
在批评中长大的孩子，责难他人。在恐惧中长大的孩子，常常忧虑。
Children who grow up in criticism blame others. Children who grow up in fear often worry.
在嘲笑中长大的孩子，个性羞怯。在羞耻中长大的孩子，自觉有罪。
Children who grow up in ridicule have a shy personality. Children who grow up in shame feel guilty.
“在鼓励中长大的孩子，深具自信。在宽容中长大的孩子，能够忍耐。在称赞中长大的孩子，懂得感恩。在认可中长大的孩子，喜欢自己。
Children who grow up in encouragement have deep confidence. Children who grow up in tolerance can endure. Children who grow up in praise know how to be grateful. Children who grow up in recognition like themselves.
短短一段话，道出了不同的原生家庭，会带给孩子怎样不同的性格特质。
In just a short paragraph, it reveals how different families of origin can bring different personality traits to children.
心理学上认为：孩子的自信，以及对自己作为一个人的价值的肯定，从根本上讲都是来源于父母无条件的爱。
Psychologically, it is believed that a child's confidence and affirmation of their own value as a person fundamentally stem from their parents' unconditional love.
如果一个人在童年时期没有得到足够的爱，或者发现父母的爱是有条件的。
If a person did not receive enough love during childhood or found that parental love is conditional.
自己必须听话，必须懂事，必须做得足够好，才能得到父母的爱。那么，哪怕他之后取得再大的成就，他的内心也始终是匮乏的。
You must be obedient, sensible, and do well enough to receive the love of your parents. So, even if he achieves great success in the future, his heart will always be lacking.
所以，那些从小与父母亲密的孩子，长大后往往会更有自信，在人际关系中游刃有余。
So, children who have been close to their parents since childhood often become more confident and adept in interpersonal relationships as they grow up.
来源：三月流焱
