摘要：Many times, the reason why people suffer is not due to external reasons, but because they cannot get along with themselves and lik

周国平说：“不肯妥协，和自己过不去，其实是一种痴愚，是对人生的无知。”

Zhou Guoping said, "Refusing to compromise and not being able to get along with oneself is actually a kind of foolishness and ignorance of life

很多时候，人之所以痛苦，不是外界的原因，而是自己和自己过不去，喜欢和自己较劲。

Many times, the reason why people suffer is not due to external reasons, but because they cannot get along with themselves and like to compete with themselves.

心理学上，有个“个人构念论”。

In psychology, there is a 'personal construct theory'.

其中意思是：一个人的认知，是由自身的过去见识、经历、思维、意识、期待、评价等形成的一种固定观念。

The meaning is that a person's cognition is a fixed concept formed by their past experiences, thoughts, consciousness, expectations, evaluations, etc.

倘若没有及时地刷新思维，提升认知力，那么每一次当自己遇到相同或是类似的场景时，就会习惯性地按照以前的处事风格来处理。

If one does not refresh their thinking and enhance their cognitive abilities in a timely manner, they will habitually handle the same or similar situations according to their previous style of handling.

若是人总将自身的注意力放在一些毫无可能让自己有所长进的事物上的话，那么时日一久，生活就会陷入失控的局面当中。

If a person always focuses their attention on things that are impossible for them to improve, then over time, life will fall into a situation of losing control.

所以，学会不较真、不较劲的意义，就在于自己可以真正做到将自己宝贵的时间和精力放在更值得去做的事情上。

So, the significance of learning not to take things too seriously and not to take things too seriously lies in being able to truly focus one's precious time and energy on things that are more worthwhile to do.

这样，你才能将生活、人生、未来掌握在自己手中。

Only in this way can you take control of your life, destiny, and future in your own hands.

来源：三月流焱