摘要：或许有人会疑惑：如果和亲密的人之间分得这么清楚，会不会让关系变得“冷漠”？健康的边界感，不会让我们远离社交，更不会让我们活成一座座孤岛，反而会让我们拥有更理想的人际环境。

保持边界感让人际交往既温暖又轻松

Maintaining a sense of boundaries makes interpersonal communication both warm and relaxed

或许有人会疑惑：如果和亲密的人之间分得这么清楚，会不会让关系变得“冷漠”？健康的边界感，不会让我们远离社交，更不会让我们活成一座座孤岛，反而会让我们拥有更理想的人际环境。

Perhaps some people may wonder: if the distinction between intimate individuals is so clear, will it make the relationship become 'cold'? A healthy sense of boundaries will not keep us away from socializing, nor will it make us live as isolated islands. On the contrary, it will enable us to have a more ideal interpersonal environment.

健康的边界感，是对自己内心的保护。

A healthy sense of boundaries is the protection of one's inner self.

它让你重视自己的感受，同时愿意理解对方的感受。

It makes you value your own feelings while being willing to understand the feelings of others.

一段关系中，最好的状态应该是给予他人七分热度，又留下三分余地，彼此尊重又各自精彩。

The best state in a relationship is to give others seven tenths of the heat and leave three tenths of the room, respecting each other and making each other wonderful.

把握这种分寸感，并不是要你在人与人、心与心之间筑一道高墙，也不是要你关闭心门、放弃与他人和世界进行连接，而是保持自己内心独立性的同时，也给他人留出自由呼吸的空间。

Grasping this sense of propriety is not about building a high wall between people or hearts, nor is it about closing the door of your heart and giving up connection with others and the world. It is about maintaining your inner independence while also leaving space for others to breathe freely.

祝我们都能在彼此的边界里，找到最亲密的驳接点；也祝每个人都能在自己的边界里，拥有最自在无羁的灵魂。

May we all find the closest point of connection within each other's boundaries; I also wish that everyone can have the most free and unrestrained soul within their own boundaries.

来源：三月流焱